AITA for not defending my parents or my brother when my parents were accused of favoritism and my brother was accused of being an attention hog?

My parents have always favored my brother (17M) over me (15M). There are so many examples I could give but I’ll just list a few ways because the point of the post is someone else has called them on it. My parents talk about my brother more, they invest more time in supporting his interests, they put more money into raising him and they have way more photos of him than me.

My brother’s bad about it because any time I get any attention he’ll bring up something he did to get attention on him again. Or he’ll do something in front of everyone to get people’s attention. He does it every single fucking time. He even does this shit in school. He’s said some random shit before to get attention off me and onto him. Our extended family will typically let him hog the attention when he starts.

So this past Saturday my parents had their families over for a party to welcome my dad’s youngest brother home. He went all over the word for the last 10 years. He was talking to me and my brother interrupted with stuff about himself.

My uncle tried to bring it back to me but my brother kept interrupting. Eventually my uncle took me to grab some ice cream for everyone since my parents forgot and we talked on the car ride and in the store. When we got back my brother went through all his football achievements.

When my uncle was talking to my parents he asked about us both but they only answered about my brother and they ignored him when he asked about me. Eventually he cracked a joke that it must be strange to have some random kid living with them and that made them defensive and they asked what it was supposed to mean. He said they act like my brother is their only child and I’m just other. He mentioned the house only showing one kid, the fact that they had nothing to say about me and ignored any questions he asked about me. My brother told our uncle that there’s just more interesting and worthwhile stuff to say about him and then he repeated stuff he’d told him earlier when my uncle and I were talking. Which is when my uncle called him an attention hog.

Things were getting more and more awkward but I loved it. I loved hearing someone finally call them on it. My parents tried to defend the three of them but my uncle was brushing it off. My parents tried to make me defend the three of them but I ignored them. Nobody else said anything and my uncle gave me his number before he left and we’ve texted a bit since.

My parents were so mad at me for not defending them and my brother. They keep telling me I owe them an apology and how I need to do better. I told them it should be them doing better and they told me no, I should defend my family against unfair accusations.

AITA?

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