My daughter (24F) dropped out of college after 2 years and is now working as a barista. She moved in with her boyfriend after dropping out but they are having financial issues because he works as a server and their combined income doesn’t go very far here in Southern California.

My daughter has asked me for financial help a few times the past year and whenever she did I would ask her when she is going back to school. At first she would say she’s still trying to figure it out but recently she blew up and told me and my wife that she is an adult and let her live her own life.

I told her to go ahead and be an adult and stop asking us for money. That being an adult means taking responsibility. We haven’t spoken since.

I know always asking her when she’s going back to school created some pressure, but it wasn’t like we were forcing her to go back to college and get a degree of our choosing. We would pay for her tuition and living expenses like before as long as she goes back to college or go to a trade school so she can get a better paying job and be more financially stable. The situation is very frustrating for my wife and I because we both grew up poor in developing countries (different countries in Southeast Asia) and our families struggled after immigrating to the US. My wife and I waited until we were in our 30’s and financially stable before having kids so they didn’t have to go through the struggles we did. It feels like a slap in the face that she is wasting the opportunity to have an easier path we worked so hard to provide for her.

So AITAH for always asking my daughter when she’s going back to schook every time she asked for money?