My dad came to stay with me (23f) for a bit last week. He was supposed to stay for 6 days but on the third day I came home to find him in the middle of sex with a woman on my couch in my living room. The door was wide open and they were loud.

Dad was all over the place when he realized I caught them and he told me he hadn’t expected me home. I asked him how that was any better. He told me I was meant to be at work until 5 and it was only 2. I’d cut my hours back for the days he was there that I was supposed to make up over the next two weeks. I told him that. I’d been home early the two days he’d been staying with me already.

The woman he was with told me she left her bra in my bedroom and asked if she could get it. Gotta admit that one got me worse and I kicked the two of them out and told him to go home. His woman tried to shame me for reacting like I was and I told her to shut up, get her bra and leave my house.

Dad wanted to stay and I told him not after this. He told me he was allowed to have a relationship and that my mom’s been gone 7 years. I told him it did not mean he needed to have sex in my my living room and in my bed. I told him that was disgusting and I even said I’d need a new bed. He told me to grow up and it’s not like he made me watch.

I almost pushed him out the door and it took me days to calm down. He called a few times but I couldn’t talk to him. When I finally did he told me I had overreacted and if I could have sex in his house, he should be given the same privilege. I told him having sex in the bed he slept in, behind closed doors was one thing. I told him it was about respecting me and my space and it was gross to expect me to sleep in the bed he screwed that woman in. He told me he loved that woman and I made a bad first impression. I told him I didn’t care.

He told me a couple of days ago I hurt his feelings by kicking him out instead of speaking to him like an adult. That he would hope I’d calm down enough because he wants to introduce me and this woman officially in the future and we need to reconcile before then but he’s not going to accept being treated like shit for living his life.

AITA?