TMI warning. I (20f) was at the gym. Even though I was on my period, I pushed through enough to get sweaty and stinky. My then boyfriend (23m), now ex, sometimes come extra early to pick me up because he likes to watch me work out. He was sitting in a chair, and my bad was on the chair next to him.

My tummy was feeling funny for an hour but I thought it was just because of my period. I got this sudden urge, so I want to women’s bathroom. I got in a stall without looking, and I found myself in a nightmare. I pooped in a public stall and there was no tissues. The factor of my period added to my nightmare. I thought I was lucky that I had my phone.

I didn’t want to text my boyfriend this, because I want to keep up a sexy image for him, but this seemed like the least embarrassing way. The text exchanges felt like a weird negotiation in hindsight. I told him the situation and I asked if he saw pads and tissues in my bag.

He told me pads but no tissues, but there are napkins. I asked him to come in the bathroom to hand me my bag and he said he wouldn’t go in the women’s like a perve. I asked him to go to the bathroom door, and hand my bag to next woman who comes in. He said he wouldn’t stand outside of a women’s bathroom and try to talk to some woman going in like a perve. He gave a similar answer when I asked him to hand my bag to a woman in the main gym area.

I waited until 3 women walked in. I didn’t want to ask but I had to get out of there sometime. A stranger gave me pads and tissues. When I got home, I broke with him via video chat. I didn’t even want to be in the same room with him ever again. He was begging to the point of years but I ignored it.

My bestfriend (19f) said I was too harsh. She said there was no non-embarrassing way for me to get out of that situation, and that some guys get the ick by periods. Am I the asshole ?