My sister got married at the weekend, and I didn’t go. We have never really gotten along, but I had genuinely thought things were better between us in the three years since I got married. And then, a month before she married, she posted me an invitation — but to me, not to me and my husband.

I am married three years. My husband and I have visited family functions with him without issue, and though my sister doesn’t get along with him, they’ve always been polite to each other.

When I asked her why she didn’t invite him to the wedding, she said the wedding was “intimate” and they didn’t have much space.

But then I found that several of our cousins did get to bring dates — one being a cousin who had just begun going out with someone a few months earlier. When I said something, she got defensive and informed me that she wished to have “a drama-free day” and that it would not be as stressful if he did not come. I really took that personally.

I told her that I didn’t feel comfortable going without my husband and hoped the day was good but would be staying home. She informed the rest of the family that I was being selfish and dramatic, and now I have messages from family members saying I ruined the day over something silly.

I didn’t want to be a drama queen about it, but it was extraordinarily rude. AITA for not attending her wedding?