Me (27f) and my husband (35m) have been together 7 years, married 2. We’ve decided to start our family, and we’re really excited. The only road block has been my MIL.

She and my husband have always been super close. He slept in the same bed as her until he graduated from college. He and her talk on the phone at least one hour per day.

When we got married, she wore an off-white dress to the wedding and during her speech said that she was so sad to “give the love of her life away to another woman”. We ended up buying the house next door to hers so my husband could be close by if his mom needed him. So, things have been really normal between the two of them up until now.

We had her over for dinner recently and us starting our family came up. My MIL said that she wanted to be involved at every step of the way, from the beginning. I asked her if she meant being at the hospital after I gave birth and she said no. So I asked if she meant be in the room when I deliver, and she said no, even earlier. I asked her how much earlier she could be involved, and she said she wanted to be there the night we conceived.

My husband nodded his head as she said this in total agreeance. I asked her if she was nuts; she can be in the delivery room, but that’s as far as I go. She burst out crying and said that all of her friends had been involved in their DILs pregnancies and she wanted to do what none of them have done before. I said maybe there’s a reason none of them have ever done it. She started wailing louder, saying it was her dying wish to be there when her grandbaby was conceived. I asked her if she was dying, and she said yes. So I asked her if it was a promise. She stormed out of the house and my husband stormed off after her.

My husband has texted me from his mom’s house saying I was out of line. He said that we could compromise by having her outside the door, covering her ears, and humming Pink Pony Club, but I put my foot down. His family has been blowing up my phone, saying I am selfish and depriving my MIL of a completely reasonable request. My husband said he will be staying in the safety and comfort of his mother’s bed and will not return to ours until I am willing to be reasonable.

So, AITAH?