AITA for not letting my SIL stay with us after she ruined my son’s bday party?

If I’m even in the mood for judgement I’m honestly just tired and everyone’s making me feel like I kicked a puppy but whatever.

I’m 34F married and we have a 7 year old beautiful son.

Inma just be straight to the point… It was his birthday party in March. Did the usual backyard thing. balloons, cake, got that one he always wants (white cake strawberry filling, i hate it personally but he loves it so who cares). dino plates, bounce house that almost blew over in the wind. was cute. he was excited.

I planned it for like two weeks even tho i work full time plus starting up a side biz of making merch and my back’s been killing me lately. he kept saying he wanted the “stegosaurus day” and he got it. he was so happy. (Mom power js)

Then my husband’s sister shows up. she’s 28 and a mess but like, whatever, she’s always been a mess. Brought her boyfriend, not even important and said they’d only stop by for an hour. She said that but then spent 40 mins arguing with him in my kitchen over some venmo charge?? idk. my son literally came up to me and said “auntie sara’s (not her rl name) yelling at the sink.”

After that she went outside, sat right next to the kids and lit a cigarette. literally next to my kid who had frosting on his face still. and when I told her no smoking, she LAUGHED. and said it was “herbal” so it doesn’t count. like…?? ma’am there are literal 6 year olds here?!!

Then her bf just…left. mid party. she got mad. started calling someone on speaker and yelling. my son got scared and CRIED cause he thought she was yelling at him. he was asking if he was bad and I was trying to calm him down while also trying to serve cake that was melting because someone (maybe her?) unplugged the mini fridge to charge a speaker. i don’t even know anymore. i feel like a crazy person retelling this. Sorry I’m doin this at like friggin post party stress rn in my effin Samsung note thing.

Anyway. she left before we even did gifts. No I’M SORRY NO NOTHING

and now… NOW. she wants to stay at our place “for a week or two” because she’s between apartments. no lease. my husband wants me to be the bigger person. says she has nowhere else to go. but like…I don’t even have space for myself half the time. I work, I take care of our kid, I feed this whole house and now I’m supposed to babysit a full grown woman who throws fits and smokes mint leaves around children???

and now I’m the bad guy. husband said “you’re acting cold.” cold?? I’m TIRED. I haven’t had a full night of sleep in months. I have two jobs just CUZ YOU CANT GET ONE RN AHHHHHHHHHHHH…and now I snap and suddenly I’m cruel. ok..

  1. AITA?? idk. probably. maybe. Sorry for this post. idk. thanks for reading. I just needed to get it off my chest. Idc if it gets down voted or just off…I’m just…in a downward spiral of a mess…and need an outlet. Sorry for writing this…

 

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