I (31F) am getting married in a few months. When I was finalizing the guest list, my cousin Liam (32M) asked if he could bring his new girlfriend Tara. When he said her name, my stomach dropped.
Tara was one of the girls who relentlessly bullied me in high school. She spread rumors, made fun of my looks, and even got a group to prank me at prom by pretending I had a secret admirer.
That trauma stuck with me for years, and I’m still working through the self-esteem issues.
I told Liam, calmly, that I didn’t want Tara at the wedding because of our history. He said he understood, but later I found out he told my aunt and other cousins that I was “being petty” and “holding on to high school drama.”
Now I’m getting messages from family saying I should “let it go” and that “people change.” But Tara never apologized. She’s never acknowledged what she did—and I don’t want to feel uncomfortable at my own wedding.
Liam says if she’s not invited, he might not come either.
AITA for refusing to invite her?