So, I (teenage girl) have two really good friends — one is a close friend, the other is my best friend since literally before we could talk. We’ve been inseparable since we were one year old. Recently, though, she’s been spending a lot more time with this other close friend. I’ve been feeling kinda left out and honestly, a bit jealous, but I’ve been trying not to let it get to me too much.

Today, both of them asked if they could crash at my place tonight. They made it sound like they just wanted to hang out outside and needed a place to sleep because they couldn’t stay at each other’s houses.

I joked (but also kind of meant it) that it felt like they were just using me for a bed, since it seemed like the plan was just the two of them hanging out without me — and now suddenly I’m useful because I have a room.

Later, one of them called me and admitted they were actually going to a house party tonight and didn’t want to go home afterward in “that state,” so they needed a place to sleep — again, mine. They hadn’t told me about the party at all, hadn’t invited me, and outright lied about what they were doing earlier. That stung.

What hurt more is that I only found out today that my best friend started smoking recently — something she always said she’d never do, especially since we all agreed we were against it. She didn’t tell me, but she told this other girl. It feels like she’s changed, and I’m being left out of the loop.

So when they asked to stay over, I said no. I don’t want to feel used, and it hurt that they weren’t honest with me. But now I’m wondering if I’m being too sensitive or petty about this. Like, maybe I should’ve just let them stay — maybe I’m overreacting.

AITA for saying no and feeling hurt that they lied to me and left me out?