I (28F) took my husband (31M) out to dinner for his birthday last weekend. I reserved a table at a nice steakhouse he loves and invited a few close friends and family, nothing huge, just 10 people. I paid for everything myself.
At dinner, I stood up to give a short toast about how proud I was of him for hitting a milestone at work. I barely got two sentences in before he cuts me off and says, “You know what would really make this birthday better? If [my name] finally admitted she’s pregnant.”
I just stared at him. I’m not pregnant. I’m not even trying to be. He KNOWS I’m sensitive about this because I had a miscarriage in March.
Everyone at the table gasped, then stared at me for confirmation. My mother-in-law immediately started squealing and tearing up. My boss (who I invited because he helped get my husband promoted) actually stood up to congratulate us.
I looked at him in total disbelief and said, “What the hell are you doing?” He laughed and said it was a prank. Just a joke.
I left. I paid the bill via the app from my car, texted everyone that the night was over, and told my husband he could Uber home. When he did get back, he called me humorless, said I humiliated him on his birthday, and now even his family is saying I was “cold” to him over a “harmless joke.”
He says I embarrassed him by walking out and that I made everyone uncomfortable. I think he humiliated me first.
AITA?