i (27f) had my first baby 3 months ago. it’s been rough, ngl. sleep deprived, overwhelmed, the usual new parent mess. my fiancé’s great, but our families have been… a lot.

anyway, my aunt (50s?) lives a few states over. i was close to her as a kid, she’s my mom’s sister, but we hadn’t talked much in recent years. i always knew her relationship with her daughter (my cousin, 25f) was super rocky.

like yelling matches, passive aggressive fb posts, no contact phases. trauma olympics kinda stuff. i don’t even know the full backstory but it’s Bad.

so my aunt comes to “meet the baby” last week. first time she’s seen me in person in years. at first it’s chill. she brings food, holds the baby, takes pics. then i notice she’s taking a lot of pics. like posing with the baby like it’s a photoshoot. i didn’t think much of it until later that night my cousin messages me like “wtf is this”

turns out my aunt posted this cringey long facebook post like “there’s no pain like a daughter who turns her back on you but life gives you second chances” with pics of her holding my baby. and tags me. i didn’t even see it cause she has me on restricted but my cousin saw it. apparently ppl in their circle thought she was talking about adopting or fostering or whatever?? like it was that dramatic.

i was PISSED. like you don’t get to use my kid for some weird facebook war with your own daughter. so i messaged her and told her flat out she needs to delete the post and stop using my baby to play mom on the internet. and she hit back with “i’m sorry you’re so sensitive but that baby is healing for me. you don’t understand how much i’ve lost.”

like girl. what. no. not my job. not my baby’s job.

i told her until she gets her shit together she’s not welcome around us. i don’t need this weird emotional mess near my kid. now my mom’s mad, saying i should be “compassionate” and that my aunt just wants to feel close to family again. like sorry but post about a sunset or a bible verse or something. don’t weaponize my newborn.

AITA?