I (33F) have been married to my husband (32M) since November 2023. My parents bought us a house using equity from their own home and paid cash for it (5 months ago).
The title is in my mom’s name and mine, and we’re essentially paying them back for helping us out. They did this to give us a stable foundation for our family, especially for our son (who I will refer to as “my son” for privacy).
Now, my husband is demanding to be added to the deed of the house, but I don’t think that’s fair. He has only been contributing minimally to the home and family finances.
He’s had multiple jobs over the last few months, and there were times I had to cover his share of rent when he was between jobs. I also ended up having to pay for all of the wedding and buy all the baby’s things on my own, while he contributed very little.
The problem is that my parents have made it clear that the equity in the house is not to be touched, as it is meant to be used to pay off the rest of their home. This is something I’ve agreed to and respected, but now my husband is insisting that unless he’s added to the deed, he won’t pay his portion of the house expenses. This feels manipulative to me, especially since he hasn’t financially contributed in a meaningful way.
I’ve tried to come up with solutions, like working together to build his credit and pay off his debts, so we can get a house in both our names in the future. But he wants ownership now, and it’s putting a lot of strain on me emotionally, especially since I’m also going through cancer treatment and juggling my family’s care.
My parents have been a huge help, providing full-time daycare for our son, which has saved us a lot of money. I trust them to care for him, and they’ve been our backbone. My husband has only shown limited interest in helping, and his actions have made things harder for me.
So, AITA for deciding to divorce him after demanding he be put on the deed when we’ve only been married for a few months, and he hasn’t contributed financially?