Me and Carlos are friends since 28 years because our mothers were great friends and we spent basically all our life together. Despite being very different because he is more extrovert, makes friends in a blink of an eye, always have non sense jokes ready on the other side i’m more cold, calculative and controlling.( our mothers always said that we are like black and white but somehow we got along)

Carlos recently got engaged to his gf (Marlene) and since a couple of months they were planning the wedding and despite me not liking her too much because of her “look at me, i’m here everyone look at me” character we never really had fights or arguments it’s just a “skin thing”.

This whole mess started 2 weeks ago while i was walking my dog (a rescued 10 years old german shepard called “Kimi” as the formula 1 driver) when i saw from distance in a bar Marlene with another guy there on a table talking.

Nothing of strange i thought but then when we were on the crasswalk with the red light waiting to pass from that bar Marlene and the guy started kissing each other pretty passionately so i was taken a back for a few moments but got out my phone and made a photo and a quick video zooming on them.

Here comes the first thing because i immediatly sent the photo and the video to Carlos almost sure that there was some kind of explanation for this because come on they were engaged and planning a wedding. Carlos just saw the photo and the video but didn’t replied and for 2 days just silence.

Until 10 days ago on 3 am in the night he intercomed at my house while i was sleeping. I saw him from the monitor and when he approached the door still a bit sleepy i just saw the bags and told him that one of the guestrooms was upstairs and that i just refilled the fridge and then went to sleep again. But then the next morning he told me what happened. Apparently Marlene was cheating on him since 9 months with this guy and when he confronted her with texts, the photo and the video she “dropped the cheaters act”. (Carlos words) And then went straight to my house after spending hours yelling and arguing with her. I asked him what his plan was and he told me that he didn’t wanted to see her for any possible reason and nedeed to break off the engagment. I agreed with him and told him that he could stay how long he wanted but just to not tell about this mess to my 7 year old adopted daughter cause she is innocent in all of this and drama is the last thing she nedeed.

So coming to the main point of this post apparently i became the “real reason” why they broke up. Since Carlos arrived at my house it’s like everyone turned against me with stuff like “none of this would have happened if you had your mouth shut” and similar shit but everytime my response is “thanks for letting me know and go to hell”. I reply this to the barrage of texts, calls and people intercoming at my house.

Sincerly i don’t feel very guilty but many are saying that i shouldn’t sent him immediatly the photo and the video and having instead a talk with Carlos. But since apparently right now for many i’m the worst and “the real reason” why they broke up and only a few are saying that i did the right thing i want to hear others opinions.

So AITAH for exposing everything or i should have done something different?