Ok so I’m in this whole family drama situation and genuinely wondering if I’m being the AH here…
I (23F) planned this beach trip with my mom, dad and sister (21F) that’s basically reviving our old family tradition from before my parents split 8 years ago. We’re finally at a point where everyone gets along again, so yay healing or whatever.

My dad remarried 2 years ago, so now I have a stepbrother “Jake” (19M). We’re not like enemies but definitely not besties either.

Last summer I planned this amusement park weekend and Jake tagged along. It was a DISASTER. This guy complained about literally everything, started drama between my parents on purpose, and then disappeared for THREE HOURS without telling anyone. We were all panicking, searching everywhere, and he was just chilling at the arcade claiming he “forgot” to check his phone. Trip = ruined.

Fast forward to now – I’ve been carefully saving up for this beach trip, with mind that we have fun and don’t have same issues like last summer.. Since this trip is specifically about reconnecting with my bio family, I didn’t include Jake in the plans and without any personal issues. I’d rather not have him with us, than deal with that stuff again. He is a teenager anyway so few days alone at home will benefit him too for sure.

Well… stepmom found out and is now acting like I committed a war crime 💀 My dad’s giving me an ultimatum that either Jake comes or he’s not coming either. Getting bombarded with spicy texts about how I’m “deliberately making Jake feel excluded” and “not accepting him as family.”

I tried explaining about the previous trip nightmare but apparently I’m just “holding a grudge” and “real family forgives.”

AITA for just wanting ONE drama-free vacation after what happened last time? Or should I just suck it up and accept that Jake is now automatically included in everything forever?