Long story short I (29M) took an ancestry test months ago and found I didn’t match my known family, so I repeated the test to double check and even ordered a test kit from MyHeritage.

The second ancestry test came back with the same results, I posted it on r. Ancestry but my mother was a member of that sub and saw the post and well the whole family knew the same day.

I am not related to my known family in any way, we think I was switched at birth by a hospital mistake. Someone else took my parents’ child and they got me instead.

My mother (53F) contacted a Search Angel through facebook who is currently trying to help her find her missing child, me on the other hand am not so eager to find my “real family” as I don’t feel like I need it.

There are just so many things happening with my family right now, like my father (56M) being recently diagnosed with cancer and my mother with a brain tumor, that we still don’t know if is benign or not, that I would just hate being the center of attention again.

Last week I received the results for MyHeritage and there is a person that matches my DNA with over 99% which means this person is my identical twin.

I feel I have been eyeing the matches for eons and I honestly don’t know what to do or who to tell and how to tell them or if I even should tell them.

I’ve been keeping this for a week now and was thinking on deleting my data from all platforms.

Like I said I don’t want another family besides the one I already have but this thought crossed my mind: what if this other guy’s mom knew she was having twins and took home my mom’s child while my mom took her child (me). ?????

I feel terrible because i don’t want to contact my twin and them have to meet this woman that birthed me and feel forced to bond with them when i already have a family.

But i also keep thinking about my mother and how eager she is to find her “baby.”

But I don’t know why I also feel like if she finds her real child nothing will be the same between us and I don’t want another mother or another family. AITAH for keeping this from my family? AITAH if I go ahead and delete the data like it never happened?

I know I am a grown man and to feel such things is childish but I just can’t help myself, I feel lost.