My (34M) wife (32F) and I have been married for 7 years. After a miscarriage she admitted to me that she had multiple affairs over the last 4 years of our marriage. Her last affair ended a year ago. She begged for us to go to therapy to work on our marriage but I refused to go.

During this time I had moved out of the house. Occasionally I would go back to take care of the house and animals and she would constantly try to manipulate me into coming back.

I had every intention of getting a divorce but the process is slow. I hated the betrayal I felt but I also missed my wife during the separation. One thing led to another and we had sex and she got pregnant again.

Shortly after the news came I had to leave for work about 12 hours away from her. She would call to give me updates about the pregnancy and talk about our marriage. We were seperated for majority of her pregnancy.

I told her that I still wanted a divorce but I would consider reconciling after the baby was born.

After several months away from her I came to the realization that I could not trust her nor could I forgive her for her infidelity. I feel like the last 7 years of my life has been a lie.

While I was away from her I met someone and a relationship blossomed between us. I truly feel like I love this woman. She has been made aware that I am still married and that I have a baby on the way. My wife is not aware of my new girlfriend.

Fast forward to a month ago, I had to go home for the birth of our baby boy. My wife has been pressuring me to reconcile but I told her that I plan to divorce her again. After the birth of our baby boy she has been blaming me for ruining our family because I don’t want to stay with her and try to fix our marriage.

I want to have a co parenting relationship with my wife but she is acting very erratic while I am here for our son.

AITA for wanting to leave my wife?

Any advice on how to deal with this is appreciated.

Edit: Thank you all for the mixed reviews. It was expected. I will be talking with a lawyer and will update once I have a chance to talk to one. Appreciate the sound advice as well.